From Hand in Hand by Gabriel Calvo

„God, the Creator of marriage and family, is at your side. Your source, as human beings, may be limited, but His energy of love is inside you. Within both of you there is a mysterious spiral of life and love which needs to be released. A generation of new people is watching you, is challenging you, is waiting for you. Generations of the future depend on how you, now, travel your journey together.”

„There can be no healthy and growing relationship during the engagement unless the two persons are willing to know themselves, and to make themselves known to each other, fully for what they are, without defense or pretense.”

„As the intimacy grows and real differences in one another are faced, the period of engagement - dating, friendship, courtship - becomes a time of crises: routine, tension, confusion, loneliness, disillusion, dissatisfaction, frustration, doubt, fear, anxiety and even conflict. When this time arrives it is important to remember that love crises are not the death of love but their proof. As gold is proven in the crucible, love is proven in crisis.”

„Love is not a „feeling”, of being a circle of two, but a „decision” to become a spiral of three: Man, Woman, and God!”

„Have patience, and be realistic. Don't expect that both of you are going to change after the wedding. He or she is on his/her best behavior now. If his/her best is not to your liking, think again. It will get worse, not better.”

„When you look at another person with respect and wonderment, when you love a person so much that you want him/her to be happy - even though you may not be allowed to share their happiness - then you are in the realm of love.”

„You must treat each other not like objects of pleasure, but as sacred persons, children of God. This is not an easy task. You need something that you cannot get with money, or purchase in a pharmacy. You need a virtue that today is undervalued, scorned or forgotten. Its name is chastity.”

„The price you will have to pay in attaining the knowledge of each other will be mutual acceptance of your differences, weaknesses, faults, limitations, goals, choices and priorities. The mutual acceptance will lead to a mutual understanding of your needs, values and dreams.”

„A healthy self-esteem is the departing point for all kinds of love. You cannot love others if you do not love yourself first.”

„A couple without communication and a relationship with God, is like a body without a spirit. It dies! The Bible tells us that this is what happened to the "first couple" in History (Adam and Eve). And unfortunately this is the real situation of most of today's couples. They want to be happy by being just "the two of us". They have not discovered that in order to be a happy couple, it is not enough to be just two - a man and a woman - but it is necessary to be three: a man, a woman and God!”

„Prayer is a mysterious desire - a desire to meet with God; to unite with Him in love; to find in God peace, joy and happiness... Prayer has the ability to accomplish more than one could imagine.
One of the most beautiful spiritual experiences a person can have is to pray together with another person. When you encounter the depths of another in prayer, you enter into the presence of God.”


"God created man and woman to give meaning, life and love to the universe. He created marriage "to His image and likeness", and God is not a circle. He is the spiraling foundation of Life and Love.

The quest for happiness in marriage demands that you expand your vision and perspective beyond your marital relationships. You are challenged by today's society to stop being a selfish and isolated married couple. And you are called by the Creator to depart from your conjugal and family love, and go towards the universal love.

You, as a married couple, have been born to become a loving spiral of love!"

Gabriel Calvo

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